Finding Normal: Life after Spiritual Trauma
Episodes
44 episodes
43: Abuse & Accountability in Churches: A Conversation with Katie Biddinger
Our conversation with Katie about her recent research into abuse in churches. We touch on how background contributes, the many kinds of abuse, how it becomes so prevalent, possible paths forward toward safer churches, and more.TW: Sexual...
42: We're Back
It's been a while, but we are still here! Join us as we ramble for a little while about the things we are thinking about these days, and hint at some future topics for the podcast.Recommended Resource: The History Chicks Podcast:
Short Thoughts - I'm Still Standing
A very short episode - thoughts inspired by a song...on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ETC85CgzTHM?si=IVQK0dxc12Us_4g9on Spotify:
41: IFB Culture
We discuss why transition out of the IFB feels like living in a foreign culture, IFB social hierarchy and potential inbreeding, with background music by Poppy the guinea pig.CD Code: MUSICEPISODE24
40: The Music Episode
We finally tackle a much requested topic - Christian Music. So many rules, so little sense. So what music is ok - and why do Christians make up so many rules about it?Recommended Resources:Po...
39: Psychological Manipulation and the Israel/Hamas conflict
A number of people in the Deconstructing/Advocate community read this situation shockingly wrong. So what's really going on?This is a very heavy and long episode, but we felt it couldn't really be any shorter without leaving out anythin...
38: Purity Culture
We discuss the toxic IFB teachings on "purity" and how it is destructive, harmful, and not even close to the truth. Once you start really examining it, the evangelical view of sex is quite disturbing.Resources:
37: Rejecting Legalism Isn't Enough
We explore something we have noticed - when people recognize and reject legalism and think that they have somehow arrived at a new and better Christianity. But it isn't enough and we discuss why.Resources: Rebecca Davis' Blog -
36: Money, Money, Money
A discussion on how financial teaching and practices in abusive churches affect the lives of those under them - for years.Recommended Resource:
35: Why We Don't Go to Church
We discuss why we longer attend and institutional church, why it's good to take a break from church, and what "church" actually is (despite what we think of).Resources:
34: Book Review: Becoming Free Indeed by Jinger Duggar Vuolo
We share our thoughts and analysis of Jinger Duggar's recent book. What's good, the import context of the book, what's bad, and what's missing.Recommended Resources:
33: Survivor Story: Interview with Olivia Hitt Olds
TW: Discussion of Child Abuse, Death of a Pet, Suicidal ThoughtsWe talk with Olivia about her experience growing up under an abusive, narcissistic mother while under the influence of a toxic, abusive IFB "church" cult under a very contr...
Bonus: Analysis of "Created to Be His Helpmeet"
Analysis of Debi Pearl's book Created to Be His Helpmeet. In which we refrain from reading inappropriate quotes from the book (mostly), dismiss Rachel's awkward college homemaking class, and reflect on why we don't like happy...
31. What About Spanking?
We discuss what the Bible teaches about spanking children and how scripture has been twisted to defend certain cultural ideas. We also delve into the history of spanking a bit to see where the idea of disciplining children that way came from.
30: Modern Manifestations of Patriarchy
We discuss a variety of modern patriarchal movements and teachers. The final episode in our patriarchy series.Examples of False teaching:Created to be His Helpmeet by Debbi PearlLove and Respect by Emerson EggerichsDocum...
29: Untwisting Scriptures Book 4 with author Rebecca Davis
We talk with Rebecca Davis about her newest book - Untwisting Scriptures Book 4: Wolves, Hypocrisy, Sin Leveling, and Righteousness. It's a really good one! Get the book here: https://a.co/d/3NQ2trQ
28: Patriarchy Pt. 7: The Rebirth of Patriarchy
We delve deep into the history of where modern patriarchy finds its roots. Since it isn't from the Bible where did it come from?The Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Barr: https://amzn.to/3xcPDjQ...
27: What About Halloween?
We discuss the origins of Halloween and whether you can take your kids trick-or-treating. Has the church told the truth about Halloween?Books:
26: Justin Woodbury Interview Pt 2
In this two part interview we have a conversation with Justin about his new book and his experience in the IFB. Trigger Warning: Sexual AbuseJustin's Book:
25: Justin Woodbury Interview, Pt 1
In this two part interview we have a conversation with Justin about his new book and his experience in the IFB. Trigger Warning: Sexual AbuseJustin's Book:
24: What about Women Pastors? (Patriarchy Pt. 6)
We explore the question of women in church leadership, and why that is one of the things that scares complementarians.Recommended Resource: Paul an...
23: Patriarchy Pt. 5: A Ramble through Complementarianism
We discuss the differences between Complementarianism and Patriarchy. Is it really any better, or is it just a different name for the same thing?Links:CBE Website: https://www.cbeinternati...
22: Patriarchy Pt. 4: NT Passages Deep Dive
In this episode we examine more passages in the New Testament in more depth that may seem to support patriarchy. Resources: Heiser on Headcoverings:
21: Patriarchy Pt. 3: Philosophical Foundations of "Biblical" Patriarchy / Women in the NT
What does the Bible actually say about how women should function in the church? Does the so called "Biblical Patriarchy" movement really have a basis in Christianity and the Bible? We start into this discussion with interesting results....
20: Patriarchy Pt. 2: The Old Testament & Life of Jesus
We discuss whether the Old Testament teaches patriarchy, and how it fits in for New Testament believers. Then we get into the life of Jesus and how he treated women...very instructive!Recommended Resource: Own Your Life by Sally Clarkso...